Silence has many benefits and it is great. Silence has got immense power and it brings you closer to god. But silence also has some disadvantages and sometimes it hurts even more than words find out how?
1-Silence can hurt you if someone you love does not talk to you:
It definitely hurts when you expect someone special to speak to you and spend quality time with you. Or chill out and have a good time with you.
When that person does not speak to you and totally ignores you then your expectations do not get fulfilled and you feel hurt.
2-Silence can hurt you if your friend remains silent when you need support:
It happens at times we accidentally come into a conflict or sometimes we seriously need someone`s support when nobody is listening to our cause if that time your friend does not speak up and does not support and take your side then your friend`s silence surely hurt you.
3- Silence shows indifference and indifference exists where there is no compassion:
We all know compassion is a pure emotion that allows us to understand others and their pain and which allows us to see ourselves in others and be in their place and see the world. When human beings show indifference to others’ sufferings then this indifference and silence is a sign of cruelty towards mankind.
4- The one who loves you scolds you for your good; if they are silent, then it means you have disappointed or hurt them.
We always see our mother, father, brother or sister scold us for our own good and we also see someone who is jealous see the drama of our destruction and not do anything about it. Hazrath Ali (R.A) said the one who scolds you loves you so never hurt and disappoint your loved one if they are silent it means you have hurt them.
5- People who avoid you and ignore you do not love you:
Instead of guessing and plucking out the rose petals of loves me and loves me not the signal is very clear if someone tries to avoid you and always ignores you then it clearly means that person is not interested in you and forget about loving you.
6- The ones who practice silence even when oppression is happening in front of their eyes are worse than oppressors:
Prophet Mohammed (saw) said if you see something wrong is happening and people are oppressing someone then help the one who is oppressed with your legs and hands and if you can`t do that at least help with your tongue.
And the people who watch others’ turmoil and destruction with their eyes and do not help and support are even worse than an oppressor.
7- When someone is silent and smiles mischievously if you slip your secrets in fluke and then use those secrets against you are your enemies:
It often happens among friends and relatives or cousins, they envy and feel jealous and practice utmost silence and be secretive, and when we with clean hearts openly reveal our facts and secrets they use them against us to harm. They are actually your enemies who have disguised as friends.
8- When someone does not appreciate you in the name of being silent:
I saw my father sometimes complaining about his friends who do not appreciate his poetry in the mushaira where all the poets recite their poetry on stage.
A few words of your appreciation can make someone`s heart happy and some people are misers in giving few words also.
9-When someone behaves rudely to you and misunderstands you for every little thing and does not talk to you whereas talking and spending time with someone else is a person who dislikes you:
You must not waste your time on such a person who only uses you when needed and does not spend any time with you and regard someone else to be superior and deserving of their company when compared to you.
10- Silence is wasted when someone sad is in your company and you could not make that person smile and laugh:
Silence sometimes goes to waste when someone is sad and in great grief and you could not help that person cheer up and chill out with you.
11:Silence is great and must be practiced if people surrounding you do not need you and your friendship:
The one who loves us needs us and our company if they expect you to speak and chill out with them do so and have fun and do not waste your time by being silent and no one wants you to be silent.